Poster for 'I Don't Know What I'm Supposed to be Doing', depicting an elderly woman looking frustrated at a pile of books.

Writer and Performer Emma Decent is on a mission to get people talking about Dementia and through Cork County Council’s Library and Arts Service will perform her autobiographical ‘I Don’t Know What I’m Supposed To Be Doing’ as part of Positive Ageing Week events.
‘I Don’t Know What I’m Supposed To Be Doing’ is a tale of Mother-Daughter love and living with and through dementia. 
The play will open in Midleton Library at 11am on Wednesday 2nd October.  A second performace will take place in Carrigaline library at 2.30pm the same day. On Thursday October 3rd, the performance moves to West Cork with a showing at 11am in Bantry Library and at 3pm in Skibbereen library.
‘I don’t know what I’m supposed to be doing’ was something Emma’s Mum said repeatedly in the early days of her dementia. Over 10 years later, now her mother has passed away, Emma finds herself asking the question for herself. 
Using storytelling, photos, and library books, she weaves a funny, moving and inspiring tale following the progression of dementia, love and life re-evaluation.  Emma’s Mum was a librarian and Emma is a library assistant. The world of the story is dominated by a love for books.
Writer and performer, Emma Decent comments: ‘Challenging the stigma surrounding dementia is important. Sometimes we forget that people living with dementia are mature, complex and beautiful human beings. We just see the label ‘dementia’ and everything else falls to the side.  We think of dementia as just a negative. It can be sad, very sad. But, it’s not all bad. My Mum’s dementia allowed us to have a different type of relationship. One where I saw her humanity more and one that was more tender, more loving’.
The show parallels the lives of two women of different generations, as well as charting the sometimes fraught nature of a mother-daughter relationship. There is humour as Emma remembers the upset her mother caused with ‘Vote Labour’ posters in their suburban street in 1979. There is tension in the adult dreams and frustrations for both women and their difficulty being friends. But the story comes to a peak when Emma’s Mum hits old age and all memories are thrown into a jumbled heap, to make sense at last or be lost entirely.  Ultimately the piece ensures that its audience is not only submerged into the world of Emma and her Mother, but also that they reassess their own views on dementia.
Cork County Council’s Library and Arts Service proudly welcomes Emma Decent with this amazing show as part of Positive Ageing Week events this October.

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